Power Femme---
Femme who revels in the power, strength, and mystique of her
femininity. Femme top, Femme bottom, Butch top, or Butch
Bottom---A Butch bottom might express masculinity and
strength through endurance, while a Femme top might express her
power through femininity.
Stud And Lady-- Old school term for Butch-Femme. Usage is
still prevalent in Black lesbian culture.
High Femme--- Exhibits hyper-femininity which may
manifest itself outwardly in appearance, and inwardly as a a
celebration of femininity.
Packing---Butch wearing a "cock" under clothing. This
could be a silicone or rubber model readily used for fucking, or
a realistically flaccid prothesis which can either be purchased
or home-made.
Daddy, grrl, or daddy/grrl--- Dynamic in some butch-femme
relationships where the Butch takes over the parental or
care-taking role, either 24-7, or as occasional age play.
Sexually, Daddy/Grrl can be played out in a incestous or S/M
fashion where Daddy is irresponsibly "wicked", or Daddy might be
emotionally responsible for nurturing and loving the grrl. This
particular dynamic can allow Femmes to freely explore being
bratty, playful, independent, innocent, or submissive, etc...
and perhaps in some instances, both partners can confront issues
surrounding abuse.
Mommy/Boy--- Rarely discussed dynamic which exists in
some Butch-Femme relationships where the Femme takes on the
parental role, either 24-7, or as occasional age play. The Mommy
may be loving, or in an S/M context, very demanding. This
dynamic an allow the Butch to be adored or punished, be
child-like, innocent, boyishly devilish, or rebellious, ect.
Stone Femme--- Can define a Femme who is sexually
untouchable, a Femme who is "very" femme, a Femme top, or a
Femme who is partnered with or attracted to very masculine/stone
Butches. The way to correctly spell "stone Femme" is with two
words. Online usage often runs the words together because early
majordomo-based mailing lists required one word titles back in
the day.
Stone Butch--- Usually means a hard Butch who prefers not
to be touched by a partner sexually at all, or in any way that
is feminizing. Stone can also mean "very", as in "very butch"
and proud of it. The word "stone Butch" is spelled with two
words.
Polyamorous--- Having pre-negotiated relationships with
multiple partners. The opposite of monogamy.
FTM, F2M, or TS--- Female to Male Transexual. The
transition usually involves taking male hormones, sometimes
includes top surgery, but doesn't always indicate bottom
surgery. Many feel bottom surgery for F2Ms at this time is not a
completely successful resolution. Some Butches may take
testosterone and have top surgery, yet don't consider themselves
transexual, or even male-identified.
TG---Transgendered. Many believe that Butches transgress
the gender of "woman" or blur traditional gender to such a
degree that they are transgendered. Others believe Butch is
clearly a gender of it's own.
Hir, hym, s/he--- Various masculine pronouns for Butches.
Sometimes Butches online will also call one another "bro" or use
traditional male pronouns, much in the same way that queens call
one another "she". Such bending of our limited language isn't
always politically motivated, but often the practice is simply
employed as a tidy way of differentiating between the Butches
and Femmes online.
Fag Butch--- Butch into other butches or FTMs; not
usually meant as a derogatory term, although some old- school
butches may express discomfort with Butch-on- Butch sexuality.
Lipstick lesbian---Media term used to describe feminine
lesbians, not normally used to indicate Femmes.
Fem---Seldom used variation of Femme.
Andro dyke--- Mainstream lesbian style that is deliberately void
of either masculinity or femininity, or an androgenous
combination of both gender expressions, each crossing the other
out. Androgeny can find roots in politics, having originated
from feminist beliefs of the 70's.
Inner faggot--- Humorous way to explain a dandy Butch who
is fastiduous about style, or a Butch who (although masculine)
exhibits other traits common to gay boy, such as a love of
theatre or a flair for design.
Baby Butch or baby Femme--- Newly-out Butch or Femme, not
always related to age.
Binary gender system--- Concept that there are two
genders: man and woman. Many believe that Butch and Femme
disprove the concept of a binary gender system. Some Butches and
Femmes claim rights to a third gender.
Saturday night Butch--- Expression used to describe
lesbians who only "butch-out" at the bar on weekends.
Biology vs. Destiny--- Very topical issue in Butch- femme
discussion groups. It's important to distinguish between sex
(male/female), gender identity (butch/femme/man/woman/queen,
etc), and gender expression (masculine/feminine). Since these
three things aren't dependent and each other, the safest way to
navigate is to assume nothing!
Boi-- In S/M circles, this means a Butch who is a bottom.
The term has been adapted by the Butch- Femme community to
describe a Butch who is not a Daddy, or to express affection
toward masculine females or Butches.
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Bear: A hairy homosexual man, always on the
larger side of the body size spectrum.
Beard: This is usually a straight woman (or
lipstick lesbian) that accompanies a gay man to
events or functions, to give the illusion that he is
straight!
Bent: A very traditional British term for a gay
person. ‘Bent as a nine bob note’.
Bike Dyke: A Lesbian obsessed with her
motorbike and all it`s paraphernalia. Most often
found travelling in packs.
Bottom: Usually refers to the person`s
sexual standing in the bedroom. This person
prefers to receive sexual benefits but seldom
bestows it on others.
Breeder: Refers to heterosexuals and their
tendencies to produce lots of offspring.
Butch: Could be used to describe either a
masculine man or woman.
Camp: Exaggerated gestures and styles that
are humorously executed. Best done by a
homosexual person.
Chicken: A young gay man, usually slender
in build and with a baby smooth skin.
Clone: A gay man proudly wearing the
traditional 70`s uniform of white T-shirt, tight
faded jeans leather accessories and the
optional moustache. Not to be compared to
Dolly, the famous cloned sheep.
Cruise: Gazing at someone with the intention
of attracting his attention and engaging his
interest. Also used to describe the action of
going out and looking for men to canoodle with.
Daddy: An older man who is the object of a
younger man`s affection. (See also types of
daddies)
Dish: To tell gossip (dish it out) or dish the
dirt! (Can also be used to describe an attractive
person as in a ‘tasty dish’ or ‘she’s a dish, I
could eat her’).
Dorothy: ( madovine) Used to describe
a gay man. Usually: " he`s a friend of Dorothy`s”
(as in The Wizard of Oz)
Drag Hag: Someone who loves the company
of all that glitters.
Drama Queen: A queen who thrives on
big, emotional and personal turmoil. Likes
throwing a tantrum and passing on good gossip.
Dyke Hag: A new term for gay men
fascinated by lesbians.
Evil Queen: Bitch from hell!
Fab: Fabulous darling!
Fag Hag: A straight woman who can`t get
enough of gay men. Usually single.
Family: Referring to other homosexuals as
being part of your own kind. Often used in
question form: "Do you think he`s family?"
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